Managing your Anger

Introduction

Not knowing how to stop your anger causes it to grow, intensify and spread to anyone or anything that gets in the way. Often it harms the ones we love – wife, husband, partner, children, friends or even people we work with, both colleagues and customers. It is important that we learn what triggers us in the first place. We react before we stop and think, then find ourselves having to deal with the consequences, which can be painful.

Overview of the course

This programme is delivered over 8 weeks with each session lasting 2.5 hours.

Evidence shows that our anger is usually rooted in childhood and adolescence. Growing up in an invalidating environment where rejection, withdrawal of love, physical and emotional abuse, inappropriate punishments and humiliation are some of our experience, we cope by locking these traumatic memories in the unconscious part of our brain where they secretly fuel our angry reactions in the present.

Ranging from those who are violent in their expression of anger to those who inhibit and contain their rage, Temper your Anger 1 helps you step through your inhibitions to start the process of effectively with your anger and that of others.

What you will learn:

• How to recognize your anger type and style
  
• Historical anger vs present tense anger
  
• The six rules of anger management
  
• Defence mechanisms
  
• Discover what anger is and what is not
  
• Primary feelings and emotions
  
• What the main sources of anger are
  
• Understanding rage and how it differs from anger
  
• Powerful strategies for managing your anger
  
• Recognise anger-triggering thoughts and learn ways to challenge them
  
• Creating an anger barometer for yourself
  
• Giving and receiving effective feedback
  
• Techniques for conflict resolution
  
• The regressive power of historical anger
  
• Learn how to control anger-generating stress

Some of the issues covered include:

• Active listening
  
• How we perceive things
  
• Reactions vs responses to anger
  
• Recognising differences between clean and unclean anger
  
• Creating a support network
  
• Recognise your assumptions, stereotypes and prejudices
  
• Benefits of keeping an anger journal
  
• Taking time out
  
• Interpersonal clearings
  
• Why we take things personally
  
• Recognise the early warning signals of anger and find out how to cool down before things really get hot